As a father to four girls my major concern is not allowing them to be taken by a young man who means them no good. Yes this is article has been written by a guy. I'm an ordinary fella now but many moons ago I was what you call a player, and I was good at it. So, now as a father I know what signs to look for in the guys my daughters present to me. Of cause these signs can not be detected at the very first meet because a true player knows how to be that perfect gentleman to the parents, especially to the father. So ladies if you want to get in the mind of the man you're dating or considering please calm down and take a second look. There are clues that you can learn to identify and behavioural patterns that once learnt you will be able to spot a player from the jump. Unfortunately you will be able to detect it in your man as well if you're already in a relationship. Why have I decided to divulge this information? will remember I started by saying that I am a father and now a loving husband and friend. I have many female friends to whom have been victims to a player and many had seek my advice and was able to put an end to a potential heartache.