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Topic Started: Nov 15 2007, 11:04 PM (152 Views)
Drew
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I feel old. Unlike every birthday I've ever celebrated, this time, I actually feel older. It's like I aged a decade over night. :coot:
Poor baby. Couldn't find a fight anywhere else so you had to come here, huh. -Cyber.
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Nibsi
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Happy Birthday, Drew!

I yet have to start the decade you have just passed, and I wonder if it'll be good :D
-Nibby
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lara
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I quite enjoyed being 30. I am rapidly approaching 40 and I'm wondering if I'll get one of those "AAk! Old!" :faint: moments then.

Enjoy it, Drew. It's good.
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Krazy
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Happy Birthday. Drew.

I've forgotten how old I am, although I'm older than Nibby and younger than lara, (iirc that is, and well you never know at my age... :D )
"Well, ‘course dis one’s betta! It’s lotz ‘eavier, and gots dem spikey bitz on de ends. "
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Eral
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I don't know whether to say Happy Birthday :party: or Condolences, :tp:
Thirty is old, but it's good old. You've had time to have sorted out a lot of shit, and acquire responsibilities you want.
How did I get here? When did this happen? Are the kinds of questions I asked when I was thirty. I wasn't sure I was really responsible enough to be thirty.
But it really is a good decade. You are still attractive and agile, and can actually make use of your life experience to your own benefit. You are still young enough to keep up with what's going on in the world without having to strain. You're ripe, in your prime. If bad things happen, you've still got the time and energy to recover from them.

After 40, you have to face the fact your young grace is gone, and you will be dismissed by those who are much younger than you, which really makes you feel old.You have to use the term "middle-aged". Your parents turn elderly and fragile all of a sudden, and everything you have taken for granted all your life changes. You get fat, or bald, or liver-spotty. You stop bending so well. You have to actively manage your health, and pay attention to your bowel movements. You have to start being old, because if you don't accept your physical limitations you are in serious trouble. The good thing is, you've had your thirties to help you age gracefully.
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Bex
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Eral
Nov 15 2007, 06:03 PM
After 40... you will be dismissed by those who are much younger than you, which really makes you feel old.

How does it compare to being dismissed by those who are (not necessarily even much) older than you? I keep waiting for that to stop happening.

I'm looking forward to my thirtieth birthday. I suspect my parents are not.

Happy birthday, Drew. I'm sure your kids don't think of you as any older than they did before.
I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should,
but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed.
-Min Jin Lee
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lara
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Bex, that's why I liked turning 30. All of a sudden people started treating me like a fellow grown-up. Somehow, when I was 28 or 29 and looked about 22, I'd tell people how old I was and it just didn't seem to register - they all thought I was fresh out of school. Once I could say "30," I noticed a difference - they'd look at me again, notice my face was not quite a 20-year-old's, and treat me as if I had a little experience. It was nice.
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Drew
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Bex
Nov 16 2007, 04:18 AM
How does it compare to being dismissed by those who are (not necessarily even much) older than you? I keep waiting for that to stop happening.

To be honest, Bex, I don't think it ever stops. I've been "rounding up" for about 2 years, now, (and my graying beard in temples allow me to look the part, too) and I still get told constantly that I'm "too young" by people in their fifties. I work for a really big racist (who always thought I was 30) who constantly tells me that I'm "just not old enough" to understand [that there is a black conspiracy to stop welfare laws from changing because half of all black people are on welfare and they don't want it to change]. It's frustrating.
Poor baby. Couldn't find a fight anywhere else so you had to come here, huh. -Cyber.
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Eral
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Old people don't dismiss young people because they have no respect or them - they do it out of jealousy.

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Regullus
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First off:

Happy Birthday Drew!!! :4Udrew::party: :bc: :beer: :drink: :king: :bc: :gramps: :point: :fatguy:

Second:

The reason you feel :coot: is because, dude, you are :gramps: and one year closer to the :grim: and :rip:. :tp: :wave: :hanky: After all, you only have an expected 43+ years (barring accident) to go.

I like the 30s. I'm wiser in the 30s than the twenties and I'm less arrogant, self centered, and judgmental and yet have better judgment. I have more real compassion in my 30s than I ever did in my 20s.

The reason people get ticked with the young, present company excepted (especially, LD :grouphug:), is they spout some stupid shit sometimes. Sometimes it's kinda cute :4jon:, sometimes it gives me a headache :ouch: and sometimes it's really sad. As to older people speaking shit, well, there's several reasons for that. Sometimes, they are the product of their times and environment, other times, they're just ignorant but you realize when you're older, they're ignorant not because they're old but because they always were.

The reason people are dismissive has little to do with age and much to do with trying to dominate the situation by belittling another. It usually means they are very insecure and/or prejudiced. Explicable in the young, less so in the old. Basically, they are trying to ride you. (It sounds better in Spanish and with visuals).

One thing I've noticed and I think it will be quite difficult when I'm older, older (If I ever get there), is when my mother and I are together, people talk to me more than they talk to her. They acknowledge her but they address me. I don't think it's meant disrespectfully, it's done very much in the same way that a person would address a parent with child or how some people would address the man over a woman. As I said, I don't think its necessarily disrespectful but it's very demeaning. It bothers me.






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I'd like to add that at this point I have taken my Spider Jerusalem action figure and tied his wrist to my Cassidy (from Preacher) action figure just so I can work out which positions are feasible with them and which aren't.

Read that and weep, internet. Weep!

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Nibsi
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Haha, brilliant usage of emoticons Regullus, chapeau.
-Nibby
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Regullus
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IRT Nibby - :blush: Eral is of course our :elvis: in the realm of emoticons.
tempus_teapot
 
I'd like to add that at this point I have taken my Spider Jerusalem action figure and tied his wrist to my Cassidy (from Preacher) action figure just so I can work out which positions are feasible with them and which aren't.

Read that and weep, internet. Weep!

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Krazy
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How does it compare to being dismissed by those who are (not necessarily even much) older than you? I keep waiting for that to stop happening.


Oh Dear Flying Spaghetti Monster, yes. (I'm considering Pastafarianism)

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All of a sudden people started treating me like a fellow grown-up.


Still waiting to be honest.

Even this very night, knock at the door, I say, "Hello?", response "Are your parents in?"
<_<

Farking brilliant.

This has plagued me my whole life. :(
"Well, ‘course dis one’s betta! It’s lotz ‘eavier, and gots dem spikey bitz on de ends. "
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Nibsi
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Or you could turn it into a horrible joke Krazy :lol:
-Nibby
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Bex
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Krazy
Nov 16 2007, 11:38 AM
Even this very night, knock at the door, I say, "Hello?", response "Are your parents in?"
<_<

Within living memory, I have answered my phone and been asked if my mother was in. In all fairness, I think it was a wrong number and they were perhaps expecting the daughter to answer the phone.

My Mom's voice is more girlish than mine.
I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should,
but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed.
-Min Jin Lee
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Eral
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Whinge, whinge whinge. Try answering the phone and they think you are your mother. Try being asked if you and your son would answer a questionnaire and you have to turn and say "that is my husband." (naturally accompanied by a death-ray stare :medusa: under which the questioner wilts visibly.)
Wait until you fill out a form and you have to tick the last box for age. That happened to a friend of mine recently. "After 45, you disappear!" she wailed inconsolably. She was feeling particularly sensitive at the time, as she had recently been refused entry to a studio audience because no-one older than 40 was allowed to participate. :huh: :grim:
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Bex
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I'm just trying to prod the Krazyman into laughing about it. I don't actually care.

I do always feel a little strange being one of the youngest people at a play or symphony performance, then one of the oldest people at a punk show. The local improv theatre troupe is actively encouraging their (mostly college-aged) audience to expand their demographic, by offering a free ticket for anyone who brings a parent.
I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should,
but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed.
-Min Jin Lee
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lara
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I was asked for identification at the liquor store or bar four times the year I turned 30. This in a province where the legal drinking age is 19. I know whereof people speak.

Marry a grey-haired geezer, it helps ;)
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Krazy
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lara
Nov 17 2007, 12:42 AM


Marry a grey-haired geezer, it helps ;)

Thanks for the advice, but forgive me if I don't act on it... :D
"Well, ‘course dis one’s betta! It’s lotz ‘eavier, and gots dem spikey bitz on de ends. "
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Eral
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Yeah, thanks for the tip, but it's kind of late. Mr.FPS is your baseball cap kind of guy- hence the appearance of youthfulness. :lol

When I was 21, I went to see 'Midnight Express' at the movies. It was rated R, and as I was walking in with six of my friends, yes, sure enough, the bouncer asked me for my ID. I smiled at him, thanked him for the compliment, and then kept him there for five minutes looking at every one of my ID's. At least 10 people walked in unmolested during that time. My girlfriends, who have a strong sense of solidarity, stood in a half-circle around the bouncer and me, and gee, was he sorry he pulled that shit by the time I had shown him my birth certificate, driver's licence, student card, medicare card and my electronic banking card to prove I really was me, and legal. He was capitulating at the driver's licence, but I insisted he should see all the evidence.
He took it in good sport. :lol:

I was in my mid-thirties the first time a mother in the supermarket referred to me as the LADY rather than the GIRL. It was a turning point. And yes, I was traumatised. :rolleyes:

One good thing about being visibly middle-aged, I don't get harassed by hoons when I walk down the street. Instead, elderly geezers constantly stop to have a chat. It's far nicer. :lol:

Rod Stewart recently opined that young women such as Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears needed an older man to give them guidance and help them settle down. I felt kind of sick on reading that. :hurl:
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Krazy
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Bex
Nov 16 2007, 10:31 PM
I'm just trying to prod the Krazyman into laughing about it.

Well, may the Flying Spaghetti Monster, blessed be his noodly appendages, enlighten me as to the funny side of constantly being "insulted" by morons.
"Well, ‘course dis one’s betta! It’s lotz ‘eavier, and gots dem spikey bitz on de ends. "
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