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| Random Bitching; Because Krazy asked so sweetly | |
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| Topic Started: Dec 7 2008, 12:02 AM (9,785 Views) | |
| Inky | Dec 7 2008, 12:02 AM Post #1 |
Thai
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| Sevarus | Dec 7 2008, 12:28 AM Post #2 |
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Did you take my pie?!
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My kind of topic =) Today I am grumpy at people who call themselves artists but are really plagiarists. These people have a real talent for copying a picture somebody else made, but when pressed to create something of their own, without references, they crumble and reveal who they really are... just someone with an attention to detail and skill with a blending tortillion. Sure, copying other's work is an okay place to start, but if you never go beyond that and learn anatomy, technique, and you know, have an IMAGINATION, you will never be worth anything more than a few "oohs" and "aahs" from your dumb classmates that don't know any better. |
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| ~R~ | Dec 7 2008, 04:51 PM Post #3 |
Sweetness cubed
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I've spent the last two Saturdays trying to teach new volunteers at the theatre. They are the simplest tasks, and yet these middle-aged women just can't learn, and then when they make mistakes they can't just listen to me, so they make things worse. Why can't people just fucking LISTEN! 
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| Inky | Dec 7 2008, 04:57 PM Post #4 |
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Try saying it a different way, mebbe. |
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| ~R~ | Dec 7 2008, 05:10 PM Post #5 |
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Sweetness cubed
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There's only so dumbed-downed I can go with the instruction "Push this button." |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| lara | Dec 7 2008, 05:46 PM Post #6 |
Kopi Luwak
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Am I odd to think that if my husband's making lunch for himself and our daughter, he might make some for me, too? Sure, I wasn't present during most of the cooking, but it was quesadillas and I arrived as he finished making the second one. I thought he might make one for me, as well, but I guess if I want to eat in this house, I have to cook. Last night he barbecued steak. I boiled potatoes, corn, made salad and set the table. He probably figures he made supper. Once I mentioned that I get tired of cooking and he said, "You seem to want to do the cooking." Why? Because if I don't do it, it doesn't get done? I will admit that he does 90% of the hand washing of dishes (pots and pans, etc.). |
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| ~R~ | Dec 7 2008, 06:45 PM Post #7 |
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Sweetness cubed
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My father's mother was very much the housewife (despite having a full-time job). She did the cooking, shopping, etc. Except that they always had maids for the cleaning. The first night my parents lived together, my mother made dinner. When my father was finished, he just got up, leaving his plates sitting on the table and made as to go watch TV or something. My mother said, "Get back here and pick up your fucking dishes!" |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| Bex | Dec 7 2008, 07:31 PM Post #8 |
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You have to say when you walk in, "Could you please make me one too?" Because while it would be nice if he automatically thought of it, honestly, most people need to have things stated outright. Same thing with any kind of division of labour gripe. If you haven't talked about it explicitly, you can't expect anything to change. It sounds like you started to, but that conversation was left incomplete. A discussion of what's fair is going to have to take into account both of your skills, schedules, and preferences. It might not be the most gripping conversation you'll ever have, but it could save on a lot of resentment. |
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I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should, but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed. -Min Jin Lee | |
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| lara | Dec 7 2008, 08:17 PM Post #9 |
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Oh, Bex, you gave me the exact same advice I gave my sister once upon a time. I'm bitching because I wanted to not have to ask, I was hungry, I have a cold and this baby-growing thing seems to be wiping me out today. I ate a lot of food (of my own making) and lay down for half an hour. I seem to be more cheerful. I have to admit that part of the reason I keep lumping it is because I hate washing pots and pans. |
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| Bex | Dec 7 2008, 08:30 PM Post #10 |
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puppet dictator
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I have actually stated that as part of an "I'm upset. Help fix me" conversation... "I needed to not have to ask." My dad does all the cooking and his girlfriend does all the kitchen cleaning and helps with some prep. They both consider this fair because it suits them perfectly. She can't really cook, but he can. I do most of the cooking and J does most of the dishes, mostly because I have the greater culinary skillz. There are some things J makes better than I do, and sometimes I clean up because he's having a busy week. It's mutually satisfactory. So yeah, you and Gordon need to figure out what you think is fair for you. |
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I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should, but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed. -Min Jin Lee | |
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| Burgundy | Dec 7 2008, 09:10 PM Post #11 |
Used to be alright; what happened?
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Why the fecking feck do people feel compelled to watch idiot-a-thon shows like X Factor? Sure, some sob story shrivel wins, gets Christmas number 1, and then fades into an obscurity greater than what they started with. Steve Brookstein's first album: 1st in the charts. His second? ONE HUNDRED AND SIXTY-FIFTH! SEVEN THOUSAND DISCS SOLD! Yet you still get cretins standing outside the sets making that irritating-as cross sign with their arms, as if doing a pathetic Green Lantern impression or something, I don't know. And if they have to go through pre-auditions with producers, why do they let the obviously rubbish singers through to the judges to get mauled on national televison? For the goggle-box watching pissants to lap up without realising they are just as talentless themselves. And speaking of sob stories, wouldn't it be great if for once they completely ravaged a shitty singer who happened to be an Iraqi refugee. No? Oh, stick to the crazy Scotswomen then. The whole thing is essentially a money pipe feeding straight into Simon Smug's back pocket, and i loathe it. I despise, detest and deny it; yet there are several people like me drawn to 'The Xtra Factor' with the bait of Holly Willoughby presenting. DAMN IT ALL |
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"Though We are not now that strength which in old days Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are; One equal temper of heroic hearts, Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield." Alfred, Lord Tennyson - Ulysses | |
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| Krazy | Dec 7 2008, 10:24 PM Post #12 |
Sneak attack, bitch!
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And here I thought it was Dermot O'Deary keeping you glued to the X Factor. :lol: Well, Holly Willoughby isn't exactly difficult on the eye, if a bit vacant between the ears. But yeah the allure of Simon Cowell, Louis the leprechaun Walsh, Danni botoxed-to-the-hilt-please-come-back-all-is-forgiven-Sharon-Osbourne Minogue and Cheryl my-husband-cheated-on-me-and-I-need-to-get-rid-of-my-annoying-northern-accent-because-I-can't-speak-properly Cole along with Dermot o'-what-a-nice-pay-package-this-is-slightly-better-than-big-brother's-little-brother Dreary and a bunch of talentless warblers is incredibly difficult to understand. Although, I know my brother-in-law likes the early rounds where they audition all those people that got their clothes out of a skip that morning, and an ability to sing on par with a set of bag-pipes being rammed down the throat of an elephant and yet think they are the best singers evar, and then get all angry when they are told they are in fact shit ,is quite amusing on some level, I s'ppose. Edit: Oh and Leona Lewis (a previous X Factor winner, so I'm led to believe), next time you want to butcher a song (the one in question being Run by Snow Patrol), try giving yourself an emergency tracheotomy first, it will sound better. |
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| Eral | Dec 8 2008, 09:56 AM Post #13 |
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lara,  No. You certainly don't want to have to ask. What you want is to walk in, and for him to say, "hello *insert term of preferred endearment/given name*, sit down, let me make you some lunch, I was just making some for me and Katya. How was your day? " I'm betting he was focussed on making lunch for Katya. Making lunch for you too would have meant multi-tasking, and well, it's a stretch. Or, it just didn't occur to him to demonstrate his love for you by making your lunch. They don't always get the necessity of doing this occasionally. I find the most effective method of conveying the message that "if you are cooking you should make me some too" is to say "if you are cooking you should make me some too". You should take every possible opportunity to discuss how nice it is when someone makes you lunch. With Mr.FPS, I often have to throw a wobbly before he really gets it. Drama is not everyone's preferred method of communication, though. It might be helpful to discuss with Katya how much you would have enjoyed some lunch with her and daddy the other day. She will immediately tell Gordon about his mistake. Husbands. They are a very long term project. 
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| LizDiggory | Dec 8 2008, 09:30 PM Post #14 |
Breakfast
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Where the fuck is the go to first unread post button? 
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| lara | Dec 9 2008, 04:42 AM Post #15 |
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Kopi Luwak
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Thanks, Eral. You can be very comforting. |
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| Eral | Dec 9 2008, 10:07 PM Post #16 |
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Kopi Luwak
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 Just feeling your pain. Just imagine, living with someone who adores you.  It makes living with someone who merely loves you seem substandard, somehow. 
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| Eral | Dec 13 2008, 12:08 AM Post #17 |
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It is my niece's birthday. Why am I bitching about that? My sister-in-law is becoming more and more bossy in her *defining years. We have reached the point where she buys the child's present for us, and Mr.FPS gives her the money. She complains if I buy a present for the child myself. I have begun negotiating with her: she chooses the present she wants, and then I get permission to buy some clothes, or some books, so I can have the pleasure of choosing a gift myself. We had agreed that I would buy some clothes. Last night she rang and informed Mr.FPS I should buy the clothes for Christmas. Probably so she has some time to decide what she needs.  * the five stages of Man, by Eral early, exploration and discovery, defining, maturing, latter I thought of that all by myself. Edited by Eral, Dec 13 2008, 12:09 AM.
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| ~R~ | Dec 13 2008, 12:28 AM Post #18 |
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Sweetness cubed
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Holy shit, that's awful. |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| Eral | Dec 13 2008, 01:38 AM Post #19 |
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~R~, Is that sympathetic, or Sarcastic? |
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| Bex | Dec 13 2008, 01:50 AM Post #20 |
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I think I know R well enough to say it's sympathetic. Remember, he likes making presents for relatives. I'll agree... seriously un-classy. |
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| ~R~ | Dec 13 2008, 01:53 AM Post #21 |
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Sweetness cubed
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I was being sincere, yes. |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| Eral | Dec 13 2008, 02:04 AM Post #22 |
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Oh good. I was going to cry if it was sarcastic. And then behave in a way that would get me into a lot of trouble with Nibby. |
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| lara | Dec 13 2008, 02:08 AM Post #23 |
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I will agree that that's over the top. A very dear friend told people other than grandparents not to bring presents to her daughter's birthday party. Most of us showed up with presents. She thinks we're all awesome for rebelling against her anti-materialism, even her brother-in-law who brought a rather large plastic play kitchen. Personally, I would not put up with that. Presents are presents. You get what you're given. I will admit that I ask my siblings to let me know what they're getting for the kidlet so she doesn't get repeats. |
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| Eral | Dec 13 2008, 11:34 PM Post #24 |
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I don't want to fight with her. When I do ignore her she complains to Mr.FPS and it becomes "choose between me and her". I really disapprove of putting people in that situation. Family makes you crazy enough without that.  Niece No.4 is delighted with the present that her mother bought which she thinks is from us. At least we get designated good presents. 
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| lara | Dec 14 2008, 04:53 AM Post #25 |
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Well, there's some consolation. At least she thinks you're a good-gift-buying aunt, and as someone who spent many years as an aunt who supplied no cousins, I know that's very important. (Somehow, since Katya, the importance has dropped off.) And ah, in-law. That's a bit different. I'd missed that, somehow. Yes, that's not good. And I'd say you should put him in charge with dealing with it, but if you didn't want to buy them presents, it wouldn't be such an issue. Tough one. |
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