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| Parenting; Kinda like the pregnancy thread but not | |
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| Topic Started: Jul 14 2009, 02:55 AM (5,908 Views) | |
| lara | Jul 14 2009, 02:55 AM Post #1 |
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So... one month doctor's appointment today (Dug was one month old on Sunday) and he weighs 11 pounds, 2 ounces. No wonder I'm tired. He's been gaining almost two ounces a day. |
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| Regullus | Jul 14 2009, 04:14 AM Post #2 |
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1 month!   2 oz a day?  How are you doing, lara? Not too tired? |
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| lara | Jul 15 2009, 01:17 AM Post #3 |
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Oh, very tired. He likes to nurse all night and I have to be awake with Katya while he sleeps during the day. I think he might have a cold and he was very trying this morning, but I'm managing. We've been going out a lot because he seems to sleep more when we're out, and Katya needs fun things to do. |
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| Regullus | Jul 15 2009, 03:27 PM Post #4 |
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You sound remarkably serene. It's said that you're not really parent w/one child and I think it's true. I'm trying to imagine balancing a newborn and an active 5yr old and my mind just boggles. |
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| lara | Jul 16 2009, 01:32 AM Post #5 |
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Oh, goodness, whoever said that? OF COURSE you're really a parent with one. You know how it feels to hold that darling baby you want to strangle because it won't give you a decent sleep but you love it so much it's so beautiful and ... (breaks down sobbing). I'm serene when I post because at most I have one child on my hands. At the moment, he's sleeping on the nursing pillow on my lap. Yesterday morning, I felt an urge to drop him when he was crying and I couldn't appease him and I still hadn't finished my breakfast and Katya was still in her pyjamas and it was almost time for lunch and we had somewhere to go after lunch. Of course, I didn't do it, but I had the urge briefly. |
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| Bex | Jul 16 2009, 03:48 AM Post #6 |
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Speaking as a non-parent, I'm pretty sure that's normal. I still admire the ability to NOT do it an awful lot. |
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I belong to one of those families that does not speak to or see its members as often as we should, but if someone needed anyone to fall on a sword for her, there would be a queue waiting to commit the deed. -Min Jin Lee | |
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| Regullus | Jul 16 2009, 01:32 PM Post #7 |
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Oh yeah, that's totally normal. It's a really odd feeling, 'though. You know what I don't understand w/toddlers is how they can move so quick and disappear from view, in like 2 seconds, (momentarily, anyways) while wearing hot pink and purple? |
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| lara | Jul 17 2009, 03:02 AM Post #8 |
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Heh. I know exactly the panic you speak of. Dugal is going to be five weeks old tomorrow, and if Lily was anything like Katya, Reg, you know I'm nearing the end of my rope, but I now know that that's OK, because of the weird transformative thing that happens to most kids at six weeks, where they suddenly start sleeping in longer stretches and life becomes manageable again. I can also tell that it's almost the end of the week. With Gordon around on the weekend, I feel half human by Monday morning, but I was losing it this evening. Dugal must be gearing up for his six-weeks growth spurt or something, because I feel like he was attached to my breast for way too much of the day. My breasts were slack and empty and he wasn't latching properly because he wasn't satisfied with the output but he was still wanting to nurse, and crying if I wasn't available quickly enough. I am so farkin' tired. |
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| Regullus | Jul 18 2009, 01:42 PM Post #9 |
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I haven't mentioned this before but Lily has cavities in her molars and she's going to have surgery or be put under anethesia in order to have her teeth fixed. It's not until the end of the September but I started feeling very nervous about it last night. I thought children lost their teeth pretty early but the molars they don't lose until 11 or 12. We want keep these teeth intact for as long as possible. It's going to be expensive, possibly as much as $4,500.00. Not that that (odd pairing) matters, obviously this is pretty important. She's not on my husband's dental although the anesthesia and surgical room are covered. Luckily I've been paying off debt for a while and was going to be almost debt free and now I've obscene amounts of credit. I never had teeth problems but a lot of people in the family had problematic teeth or normal teeth. I think my teeth were abnormally good. Still, I'm worried about it. I wish I could wait until she was more receptive to dentistry w/o anesthesia but the teeth are wearing pretty rapidly. This office does at six of these surgeries every week w/no problems but it's hard not to worry. |
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| lara | Jul 20 2009, 02:36 AM Post #10 |
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Katya had a cavity in one of her front teeth and had to have it fixed when she was only 2. We went in to have it looked at, and her second visit to the dentist was to have it fixed. We're lucky that it was a front tooth; they only had to give her laughing gas and she was very good about keeping her mouth open for the dentist. It ended up not being a big deal at all. Her tooth must have had a flaw, the dentist said; there was one very small, round brown spot that was the cavity, and the rest of her teeth were fine. Anyway, hopefully Lily's experience is as painless as Katya's. Why isn't Lily on your husband's dental plan? Too expensive? Wrong kind of plan? Dentistry is not covered by our universal medicare system, but I've had a dental plan through work since nine months before Katya was born, and it covers our whole family. The laughing gas wasn't covered, but it only cost $50. |
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| Regullus | Jul 20 2009, 02:55 AM Post #11 |
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Re: Dental Plan: Nobody added Lily to the dental plan.  Who knew she'd need a comprehensive dental plan by the time she was four. We can only add her in November. I'm afraid by November she'll need molar dentures.Still, it would only postpone the surgery for two months. It's probably a pre-existing condition.  Worth looking into, I suppose.
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| lara | Jul 20 2009, 10:51 PM Post #12 |
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Oops. And that reminds me to add Dugal to my work health care plan. |
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| Regullus | Jul 20 2009, 11:45 PM Post #13 |
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 Glad to be of assistance.
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| ~R~ | Jul 30 2009, 07:21 AM Post #14 |
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Baby story: I was sitting in my rocking chair on the screen porch of the River House and Cousin Brakes hands me Miss Eloise. "It's like holding a time bomb," he says. She was awake but relatively calm (her default mode is "fussy") and I held her where she could see mommy and daddy as they chatted with family in the yard. The stereo was playing (she likes Jackson Brown and Bruce Springsteen) and she had a hold my my finger (  ) so I was bouncing her hand in time with the music and eventually she fell asleep.When her mother came to check on her, she was amazed. Apparently Miss Eloise had never fallen asleep in the arms of anyone but her parents before. Edited by ~R~, Jul 30 2009, 07:21 AM.
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| lara | Aug 2 2009, 01:24 AM Post #15 |
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Dugal's teething. :( edit: And he likes the Dixie Chicks. I played this for him twice and it put him to sleep both times: Lullaby. I'm playing it again right now. Edited by lara, Aug 2 2009, 01:28 AM.
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| ~R~ | Aug 2 2009, 01:44 AM Post #16 |
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 I've heard that's the worst. |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| lara | Aug 2 2009, 10:53 PM Post #17 |
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Dixie Chicks worked their magic again, though it took two go-throughs this time. |
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| lara | Aug 3 2009, 01:25 AM Post #18 |
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Dixie Chicks work their magic again! Apparently I'm not allowed to sing along, though -- Dugal started to cry when I was singing along. |
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| ~R~ | Aug 28 2009, 09:12 PM Post #19 |
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What is this instinct mothers of daughters have to put baby girls' hair in those sad little sprout-like bunches and call them pigtails, when there is clearly (to the rest of us, at least) not enough hair? To me, it only calls attention to the lack of hair. |
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"If you don't stick to your values when they're tested, they're not values. They're hobbies." - Jon Stewart My Food Blog | |
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| lara | Aug 30 2009, 03:03 AM Post #20 |
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I agree. What a lot of work to get a very strange look on your child. It's hair women. Women who cannot leave hair alone, who delight in "doing" hair, can't wait to do their daughters' hair -- literally. |
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| Nibsi | Aug 30 2009, 09:31 PM Post #21 |
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I enjoy doing *my* hair XD |
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| LizDiggory | Aug 31 2009, 02:24 PM Post #22 |
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That's why I'm glad I had a boy. All I have to worry about is giving him a buzz cut when it gets too long. 
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| lara | Sep 14 2009, 02:14 AM Post #23 |
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Ug. First week of school, and already I'm facing "What do I do?" issues. Katya has this unfortunate situation where a girl who's not her friend and Katya have a mutual friend, and there's been some competition over the mutual friend. Specifically, last year Katya would sit down next to her friend, and this other girl would try to push Katya aside so she could sit there. The other girl is the biggest kid in the class, but Katya can hold her own and simply wouldn't move. Well, we're on our way to school on Friday and Katya tells me she's had an argument with this other girl, whom I'll call S. Then she tells me S was calling a new girl in their class ugly -- "ugly as a monster." Katya said, "No she's not, she's pretty as a fairy." (This has been confirmed by a friend, who asked me about it because her son said S had been saying "ugly things" about a new girl and Katya said she was "pretty as a fairy.") Katya told me the girl was wearing a dress Katya liked. Anyway, S said this while they were having their snacks -- and the new girl was at the table with them while she was being discussed! Katya later whispered to their mutual friend that the new girl "is pretty as a fairy, but don't tell S." Katya said she said "don't tell S" because she didn't want the argument to start again. So the mutual friend turned to S and said, "Katya says [the new girl] is pretty as a fairy." Katya whispered the same thing to my friend's son. I have chatted with S's mom and she seems really nice. I am also friendly with the mutual friend's mom; they've had play dates and the mom and I talk a lot. We're almost friends, I'd say. I think she may be friends with S's mom, and S and the mutual friend have also had play dates. What I can't figure out is whether I should say anything to anyone. First, I don't want this new girl to be unhappy already. I hope Katya's defence of her ends all this, but I don't bet on it, which would be sad for the new girl. Second, I don't want Katya to have a continuing problem with this girl, though that seems unavoidable. I'd hate to see camps crop up -- Katya's friends vs. S's friends. Third, the mutual friend is in an awkward position. She has competing friends. Yuck. I think for now I have to leave it alone, but if the struggle over the mutual friend continues, I might mention it to the mutual friend's mom. I also think I may have to mention it to the teacher if this new girl seems to become the object of bullying. The teacher will likely have some idea of such a thing happening, but my info. might be helpful to her. Any thoughts? Edited by lara, Sep 14 2009, 02:21 AM.
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| Nibsi | Sep 14 2009, 02:27 AM Post #24 |
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Sorry, I don't really have anything helpful, but I simply find it amazing at what a young age social interaction of this level takes place. |
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| Inky | Sep 14 2009, 03:59 AM Post #25 |
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My suggestion would be to leave it alone but be watchful. Katya's got a good heart and a lot of nerve, which will serve her (and others) well. Unfortunately, one of the most important reasons (imo) for kids to go to school is to learn how to navigate situations like this. Having adults intercede and force everyone to "play nice" is most likely going to simply drive tension underground, where it'll probably express itself in nastier ways. Most kids will at some point be an outcast of some sort, and if and when it's Katya, it's really going to be hard not to jump all up in the business. Katya's friend is probably going to have to make some sort of choice, and she'll deal with the consequences either way. The new girl is either going to make friends or get off to a rough start, and learn to deal with that. S will, hopefully, learn that she's not winning any friends by being a Class 5 bitch. |
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