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| jojo25 | Oct 12 2015, 08:50 AM Post #1 |
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a child to play sports Ok, so here is the deal. im pregnant with my second child. My first was a June '08 baby. I thought I would come here and ask my question since you all have kids my daughter's age and many of the women on my other birth board are FTMs or rather unpleasant women and everything has to be an argument with them. My fianc and I have been together 4 years now and this pregnancy is Unplanned but very much wanted as we had recently started talking marriage and kids. We never had a chance to discuss our views about how to raise a child or anything of that nature and now here I am pregnant already and we couldn't be happier but these things are starting to come up. My daughter is not his child. Her father left when she was Cheap authentic jerseys 2 and she hasn't seen him since. I feel like i have been doing a fairly good job at raising her and my family has been a big help. When it comes to activities outside of the home, such as sports or anything like that, I have always, for the most part, let her take the lead in her decision to partake Cheap nhl jerseys in them. When she was 4, she played soccer. after one season she decided it wasn't something she really enjoyed so I didn't make her continue to do it. The beginning of this year, she decided she wanted to do gymnastics but once again, decided she did not want to do it so I let her stop. My thought is, as long as she is trying things out, I am not going to force her to do something that she does not enjoy doing. My fianc on the other hand, feels that it is okay to force children to do sports and activities that they don't want to do. He said no matter what his son is playing sports and does not have a choice because he needs to be a productive member of society and not sit at home all day. (Im sorry, but how is playing a sport being "a productive member of society?") I asked him, "what if he doesn't want to play sports?" My fianc tells me, "too bad, he doesn't have a choice." He tells me that him and I have 2 different upbringings and that when he was a child he wasn't allowed to sit at home and be lazy. Which is kind of offensive to me since I did all kinds of things when I was younger and I was never forced to do any of them. They were my choice. My daughter is not lazy by any means. she is very active and she never just sits around and watches TV. She loves to draw and she loves to ride her bike and she loves to dance around which listening to music and she does yoga after school. She is Wholesale coach handbags going to join a cheer club at school next month and when I told my fianc, he made the comment that cheer is not a sport and made it seem Like she is a lazy little girl because she is not in a real sport. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to force my child to do some extracurricular activity she really dislikes because I want her too and make her unhappy and resent me for it. What if we have a son that is an extreme introvert and would rather stay home and study and read? He tells me, that's not good enough and he would have to play a sport to stay fit. It's all just so frustrating. I'm not looking for who is right and who is wrong because I know there isn't really a definitive right or wrong answer. But i would like some opinions on this kind of subject. What are your view on this kind of thing? Do you think children should have to play a sport or do you think they should be able to kind of take the lead in these kinds of decisions. of course with a little bit of guidance from the parents. I believe 6 is the time to start finding things they enjoy doing. Why not try a few diffiferent things to see what's best liked? My oldest (my June baby) never had interest in team sports. I didn't push him. He wanted to try karate and he loves it. He's now been doing it for over a year. I don't think it's right to force a kid to be involved in an activity they don't enjoy what's the point if they don't enjoy it? Forcing a child to play a sport is only going to make them resentful and probably rebellious due to not having an interest. I believe 6 is the time to start finding things they enjoy doing. Why not try a few diffiferent things to see what's best liked? My oldest (my June baby) never had interest in team sports. I didn't push him. He wanted to try karate and he loves it. He's now been doing it for over a year. I don't think it's right to force a kid to be involved in an activity they don't enjoy what's the point if they don't enjoy it? Forcing a child to play a sport is only going to make them resentful and probably rebellious due to not having an interest. That's what I have been trying to tell my fianc. My daughter is more than willing to try things but she is just not interested in doing "real sports" such as soccer or baseball and things like that. She tried gymnastics and she like it for a while. Now she is going to try cheer and I'm sure she will enjoy it. She really wants to do dance but I just can't afford it right now but as soon as I can, I am signing her up. She loves music and singing and dancing and I think in the long run, that's where she will show the most interest and succeed. My fianc just seems to think that they must do a "real sport" whether they like it or not. He knows with my daughter, he doesn't really have much of a say in how I raise her and choose to go about this kind of thing but it's going to be rough with this next baby. and we are having a boy so I know it will make it even more of a struggle because God forbid he has a son that could end up NOT being interested in sports. Haha, I know! He is a huge soccer fanatic and played soccer from the time he was very young and played semi pro in his early adult years and was a soccer NFL jerseys cheap coach for 10 years. He still plays in a league but only once a week especially since he injured his knee and had to have surgery a year ago. and i won't lie, I think his injury was caused by him being older and out of shape (because though he played soccer he was and still is way out of shape since when I met him) and overweight and his body couldn't handle it any more because he didn't come in contact with a single person or anything when it happened. He would never make it through a cheer camp! Lol. he gives me crap for being a baton twirler because he said it's not a sport either. I know most people probably don't see it as one but I know that it was some of the hardest training and practicing that I have done. It required a lot of skill, flexibility, coordination, team work, and commitment. I practiced for hours every single day to master it. I grew more and more resentful every day to the point where I wished I could bash his head in with a baseball bat (Literally, I would draw pictures and fantasize about it. That's how bad it got). I carried the resentment for years afterwards. Well into my teenage years. Ummm this is crazy. i would never ever force my kid to do any kind of hobby/sport/activity that he/she didnt want to except forlearning how to swimbecause of safety reasons. i agree about trying to get them to continue the activity if you paid for it mainly because they may change their mind afer going a couple more times. My June 08 son this spring/summer played soccer, baseball, lacrosse, skateboarding and swimming. He didnt really like baseball or lacrosse, so unless he is interested for some reason next year we wont be doing them again. Swimming we continue even though he isnt a fan because he loves the pool/beach and i need him to know how to swim (still working on it). He loved soccer/skateboarding and we will continue with those. I can remember begging for piano lessons. Then my dad made practicing a form of torture, and i hated it. They made me keep playing for what seemed like forever (probably only like 6 mths) and to this day i remember how miserable it was and i bring it up occasionally still! I will never do that to my kids! Laziness has nothing to do with whether you play sports or not. |
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